The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him. Proverbs 20:7 KJV
When I read this scripture I think about the importance of being a man after God’s heart. The scripture says a “just” which means regular; orderly; due; suitable, or upright. So this tells me that if a “just” man is faithful in all that he does and he walks in integrity, then his children sees the way their father walking as the “only” way. As fathers, we are responsible for the spiritual and social development of our children’s lives. It is timeout for the old saying “Don’t do as I do, but do as I say do.” By doing and saying less are what our children see as the way they build their belief system and their lifestyle. So whatever we do as fathers dictates our children’s success or their failures. Fatherhood is not for the spineless, weak and unfaithful. You cannot call yourself a father if you sleep around with a bunch of women, make babies and do not own up to your responsibility. That’s a called a “sperm donor” Anybody can be a sperm donor but it takes a “just” man to raise and teach their children. The scripture says that the man is not only “just” but he walks in “his” integrity and as results of him walking in “his” integrity, his children are blessed (empowered to prosper) after him. In today’s society, our children are losing battles daily with themselves because fathers not are training their children in the Lord and be a godly example for them to see. The bible says in Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. When you train them as children, they will reign as adults. Fatherhood is not only a duty, but it is a calling. God holds all men accountable on how they manage and care for their families. Nurturing and loving your children comes with patience, commitment and courage. Without a man standing in his role as a father, his community, household and the infrastructure of society suffers and crumbles away. Fatherless households have become a norm this society.
According to website called “Fatherless Generation” these are some alarming statistics:
•63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes (US Dept. Of Health/Census) – 5 times the average.
•90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes – 32 times the average.
•85% of all children who show behavior disorders come from fatherless homes – 20 times the average. (Center for Disease Control)
•80% of rapists with anger problems come from fatherless homes –14 times the average. (Justice & Behavior, Vol 14, p. 403-26)
•71% of all high school dropouts come from fatherless homes – 9 times the average. (National Principals Association Report)
Father Factor in Education – Fatherless children are twice as likely to drop out of school.
•Children with Fathers who are involved are 40% less likely to repeat a grade in school.
•Children with Fathers who are involved are 70% less likely to drop out of school.
•Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to get A’s in school.
•Children with Fathers who are involved are more likely to enjoy school and engage in extracurricular activities.
•75% of all adolescent patients in chemical abuse centers come from fatherless homes – 10 times the average.
Father Factor in Crime – A study of 109 juvenile offenders indicated that family structure significantly predicts delinquency. Adolescents, particularly boys, in single-parent families were at higher risk of status, property and person delinquencies. Moreover, students attending schools with a high proportion of children of single parents are also at risk. A study of 13,986 women in prison showed that more than half grew up without their father. Forty-two percent grew up in a single-mother household and sixteen percent lived with neither parent
These are just a few statistics. Let us stand up and beat reduce these statistics to the glory of God. Let us no longer be a problem, but be solution for our children. Men! Our children are counting on us to be there for them. Let’s move forward in victory, its starts with us.